Glad you found us! This site has one objective: to help you win the spiritual battle for purity, in every sense of the word. Society encourages us to throw away our virtue; the message sent out by the media is: "everyone's doing it!" We are here to prove that statement wrong! Come in, read some encouraging testimonies, chat with others who strive to remain pure, and reaffirm your belief that purity, sexual and otherwise, is not only possible, but totally worth it!

Monday, April 14, 2014

Don't Move Until You See It...

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Joshua 3:3-4     "When you see the ark of the covenant of the Lord your God, and the priests, the Levites, bearing it, then you shall set out from your place and go after it.  Yet there shall be a space between you and it, about two thousand cubits by measure.  Do not come near it, that you may know the way by which you must go, for you have not passed this way before (NKJV)."

Well, it's been quite a while since our last post, but we're back!  Thanks for taking the time to read, I pray that you will be blessed.

In my personal life, God has been calling me down new paths.  He's also been challenging my way of thinking.  Being a person who likes to plan and prepare, this has been quite a growing experience, because it's not natural to me.  I am a planner.  I like things planned out as far in advance as possible.  If it were up to me, I'd plan my life from cradle to grave.  My preference is to know what potential problems lie ahead, and to be prepared for them.

When I come to a fork in the road, I tend to get anxious.  My desire is to follow the path God has for me, but I'd like to know which path that is, now!  Unfortunately, that's not how God works most of the time, and therein lies my struggle.  Sometimes, in my quest to "figure it out,"  I am tempted to take action before I have all the information.

When Joshua was preparing to take the children of Israel across the Jordan river, his soldiers spoke the words above to the people.  They were to get ready to cross, have everything packed up, but they were not to set out until they saw the ark of the covenant, (which represented the presence of God) move.  Only when they saw God move were they to take a step.  Then, even after they followed Him, there was to be distance between the people and the ark.  Why?  because you have not passed this way before. 

Then, in verse 5, Joshua says to the people, "Sanctify yourselves, for tomorrow the Lord will do wonders among you."  What a promise!  The reward for waiting was that God would work miracles among and through the people.  

So my word of encouragement to you (and to me) is this:  be patient.  Don't move until you see God move, no matter what it is you are waiting for.  Only in God's time and in God's way will your efforts be blessed.  Don't waste time trying to figure things out on your own, and don't sit there and fret.  It causes nothing but harm.  There are things that seem to important in the eyes of the world, but in reality, they aren't.  The world might be telling you to hurry, but God isn't.  

While you're sitting at the fork, waiting for the go ahead, sanctify yourself.  Set yourself apart for God's special work.  Spend time in prayer, get plugged into His word, and make a point to praise Him.  Prepare yourself for God's use.  Just like the children of Israel, God is planning to use us in mighty ways for His glory, but we must be careful to keep our eyes on Him.  He knows the way, we do not.  

Be blessed this week while you wait!

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Monday, January 13, 2014

Time For a Name Change?

Genesis 32:28 And He said, "Your name shall no longer be called Jacob, but Israel; for you have struggled with God and with men, and have prevailed (NKJV)."

Our last devotional post discussed how easily we give away the blessings of God in exchange for something virtually worthless, like beans. 

Thank the Lord that the story doesn't have to end there!  Although the devil would like us to think otherwise, the truth is, God is always willing to forgive us.  By His grace, He can help us move forward, and give us a bright future, even after making mistakes. 

We see this aspect of God, oddly enough, in the life of the one who did the cheating in our previous story; namely, Jacob.  Even though God had promised that Jacob would be the one to lead the family, Jacob seemed bent on grasping power by his own means.  First, he took advantage of his brother, Esau when he was weak and "bought" his birthright (Gen. 25:29-34).  Then, when it came time for Isaac to give the paternal blessing, Jacob stole that from Esau as well (Gen. 27:1-29).

Obviously, Esau resented his brother.  In fact, the Bible says that he "hated" Jacob, and plotted to kill him after their father passed away.  Jacob was forced into exile to save his life.  He went to live with his uncle, Laban for many years.  While he was there, he became victim of deceit, as his uncle tricked him into marrying the wrong woman, coerced him into working many extra years to marry the woman he loved, and changed the agreement regarding Jacob's salary ten times while they worked together.

Finally, the Lord told Jacob to return home to his family.  Jacob was terrified of Esau's response to his return, so he sent messengers ahead of him with a gift.  He also divided all his flocks, servants, and family into two companies, so that if Esau attacked one group, the other might escape.

After sending all that he loved ahead of him, Jacob spent the night alone in his camp.  The Bible says that "a Man wrestled with him until the breaking of day. (Gen.32:24)"  (This "Man" was God!)  As the morning came, God crippled Jacob, and yet he continued to wrestle with Him.  Finally God said, "Let me go, for the day breaks."  But Jacob responded, "I will not let You go unless You bless me!"

God asked, "What is your name?"
He said, "Jacob."
God answered, "Your name shall no longer be called Jacob, but Israel; for you have struggled with God and with men, and have prevailed."

In other words, Jacob came to the end of his rope.  All his life he had relied on his own devices, making things work by his own means, but he knew that reuniting with Esau was beyond his control.  He was facing the fact that he had dealt deceitfully with others, and  that he was living up to the name Jacob, which means deceiver, or liar.

He might have been physically wrestling with God that night, but in actuality, he'd been wrestling against God's will most of his life.  When day broke, and God told him to let go, Jacob refused. He did so not  to disobey God, but because He knew that He needed God.  He refused to let go of the only One who could help him. He was falling completely upon the grace of God, and revealing how desperately he needed Him.

Then the point of forgiveness occurs:  When God asks Jacob his name, He's basically asking Jacob to admit his sin.  Jacob admits that he has lived as a liar.  He has hurt people through his lies, and now he is facing the consequences of those lies.  God's response?  He gives him a new name; a new identity!  "Your name shall no longer be Jacob, but Israel."  The name Israel, in the King James Version of the Bible, means "Prince with God."

God took Jacob's life of lies, and turned him into a prince.  If He can do that for Jacob, what can He do for you?  Is it time for a name change?  Would you like to live a different life than the one you've built for yourself?  All it takes is admitting to God that you've messed up.  God will forgive you, give you a new identity, and make you one of His children.  There is nothing too ugly for God to forgive.  There is no name, no reputation you've built for yourself, that God cannot change.  So, come to Him, wrestle with Him, come to the end of yourself, and discover the name God has for you!

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Wednesday, August 28, 2013

Don't Sell Yourself Short!

Genesis 25:34     Then Jacob gave Esau some bread and some lentil stew. He ate and drank, and then got up and left. So Esau despised his birthright (NIV).  

Well, it's been a long time, but we're back!  Now that school is back in full swing, I have a special message for you.  I hope that it will get you thinking as you start the new school year, and will challenge you to stand strong in your faith, and in your commitment to purity.  

We've all heard the story of Esau and Jacob.  In a nutshell, here's the scenario:  Esau has been out working in the fields, and he comes home exhausted and famished.  In the tent, Jacob is cooking a pot of beans.  Esau asks for some of Jacob's food, and Jacob takes advantage of the situation.  (Probably not for the first time, and definitely not the last time!)  In verse 31 Jacob says "First, sell me your birthright."

This is an amazingly hefty price for a pot of beans!  A birthright was the special inheritance given to an oldest son.  Upon the death of his father, the oldest son received a double portion of his father's estate.  This was traditional, because the oldest son was expected to take over as head of the household, and needed to provide for the family.

While Esau should have taken time to consider the bargain, he was too wrapped up in the emotions of his present situation.  He responded, "Look, I am about to die . . . what good is the birthright to me?"  Jacob makes him swear an oath, Esau does, and Jacob sells him the pot of beans.

Here's how this applies to us:  As Christians, we're out there, doing the work God has given us to do, and it's exhausting!  As a teenager committed to sexual purity, you face an all-out war against your decision everywhere you turn.  You are rejected by your peers.  Sometimes you have to stay at home, rather than having fun on the weekends.  You might miss out on going places.  You even face ridicule, as people don't understand, much less value your decision to honor God with your body.  You are slammed with sexual images everywhere you turn, and Hollywood spends millions of dollars to specifically target you, encouraging you to abandon your principles by glorifying sinful lifestyles.

It's a tough place to be.  You probably wonder if anyone actually succeeds.  Then, in your moment of weakness, someone offers you a relationship, acceptance, friendship, and "love."  After all your hard work, it seems so easy.  The price?  Give in to the pressure.  Surrender to the voice that's saying, "Try it!  Everyone else is, and look how good life is for them!"

So many Christian young people, (and older people as well), fall for this lie!  They sell their spiritual inheritance, and deny who they are in Christ, for beans!  They allow themselves to be used, in exchange for a very brief change in their social circumstances.  Esau may have satisfied his immediate need, but he became hungry again, and that pot of beans was no longer there to fulfill him.  Jacob, however, walked away with Esau's prize:  a double portion of the family inheritance.

Don't let the world rob you.  As a child of God, you will inherit the riches of an eternal kingdom one day, and even while here on earth, you have the power of the Holy Spirit living within you.  He will give you the power you need to overcome any temptation, no matter how weak you are at the time, and no matter how strong the temptation.  You are spiritual royalty, living in a world that has no real power over you.

Satan's only weapon is the power of lies.  He paints a very convincing illusion, hoping to make you forget who you are and what belongs to you, but it is still an illusion.  Remember, daughters and sons of the King, that you are entitled to power to overcome the enemy (2 Tim. 1:7).  Remember that the joy of the Lord is your strength (Neh. 8:10).  Remember, also, that God's plans for romance are complete and without regret.  It might mean that you struggle against rejection for now, but if God's plans are for you to marry, then your inheritance is a faithful, committed relationship that will bless you until death do you part.  Finally, realize that you are ultimately the bride of Christ.  God's greatest plans for you are to spend eternity with His Son, and know the most faithful, committed, fully accepting love in existence.  A love that goes beyond what our minds can even comprehend.  

Stand strong this year, my brothers and sisters!

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Thursday, June 27, 2013

We're on TV...again!

We have exciting news!  Armed and Virtuous is getting a wonderful opportunity to "show and tell!"  We've been invited to appear on Nite Line, a Christian variety show on the Dove Broadcasting Network, based in Greenville, South Carolina.  Click here to see the write up on their website.

We'll be sharing about the ministry; our mission, what we do, and where we're headed.  I'll be sharing in song as well, possibly even with my precious kids (pray for me).  ;-)

So, if you're in the area, tune in to WGGS TV channel 16 (channel 8 on DirecTV) tomorrow night at 8 p.m. EST.  If you can't make it then, it will re-air on Monday morning at 8 a.m. EST.

If you're not in the viewing area, follow this link to the home page and click on the "Live Program Stream" at 8 p.m. EST (7 p.m. CST).  Again, if you miss the original broadcast, it will come on again on Monday morning at 8 a.m. EST/ 7 a.m. CST.

We'd appreciate your prayers, that God will take this wonderful opportunity and use it for His glory.

Tuesday, May 28, 2013

More Than Just a Flavor Enhancer!

Matthew 5: 13     "You are the salt of the earth; but if the salt loses its flavor, how shall it be seasoned? It is then good for nothing but to be thrown out and trampled underfoot by men (NKJV)."

(This is an older post of mine.  I'm re-visiting it with you, in light of Friday's "Think on These Things" post.  We're living in times where evil is being called good and good is being called evil.  What will you do to take a stand?  In that light, may this devotional be a blessing and a challenge to us all this week:)

Maybe it isn't as earth-shaking an idea to you as it is to me, but I couldn't help but share the new way God gave me of looking at this verse. Throughout my life, when I've read, "You are the salt of the earth,"  I took it to mean "You are the seasoning in this world.  You make this dull world a more palatable place to live.  You make this world more exciting and interesting; much like table salt makes a bland dish taste acceptable."  Is that how you've always taken it? 

But salt is so much more than just a flavor enhancer!  For centuries it has been used to preserve food.  How?  By removing water-the environment for decay, and creating a new enviromnent- a dry and salty one, which is unfit for bacteria to live and grow.  Salt does not completely halt decay, but it sure slows it down!  In other words, salt is vital to keeping food safe to consume.  Salt preservation could be the difference between health and sickness (or even death!)

So, when Jesus calls His people the salt of the earth, He's declaring how vital we are to the preservation of what is good.  We live in a dying world.  Our society is riddled with the bacteria of sin, and everything from popular movies, fashion styles, secular music, and commercials expose the evidence of rot and decay.  As believers, we're made of a completely different substance than the world.  We have the ability not only to avoid the rot, but we can in turn create a healthy environment!  When we stand up for what is right, and expose what is wrong, sin can't abide in our presence; it's like we create a healthy "peer pressure."  But if we lose our preserving abilities, by conforming to the world, we fail to fulfill our purpose, and the decay consumes not only the world, but us.

With summer just around the corner, you may feel pressured to wear what's "in," even if it causes guys to lust, hang out with people who do drink, date guys who will pressure you for sex, or do whatever it takes not to stick out.  I've been there, and I remember how cruel the crowd can be.  Keep in mind, though, that we're not supposed to look or act like the world.  We're meant to be different, and it's a very good thing!  We are designed to stand out, to not only oppose what is sinful, but to stand so firmly in our convictions that we preserve a healthy environment all around us.  As other Christians see you affecting your corner of the world, they'll join with you and you'll become even stronger as a team. 

In a world that seeks to destroy, dare to fight against the agents of decay.  Accept who you are, and step up to the task God has given you! 

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Friday, May 24, 2013

Think On These Things: The Battle is Intensifying!

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Philippians 4:8     Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things (NIV).

Happy Weekend, folks! A few articles that I read recently have broken my heart.  I'm calling attention to them as this week's "thing."  I know the spirit of our weekend posts is designed to be uplifting, and dwelling upon things that are excellent, but my hope is that in sharing the recent turn of events, it will stir you to prayer and to action, which is definitely excellent and praiseworthy.

The first article deals with the recent IRS scandal in which IRS agents have been found targeting conservative groups, such as the Tea-Party organizations, and asking intrusive questions, as well as delaying approval for non-profit status.  I have learned recently that this discrimination has also has engulfed the pro-life movement.  This article explains in greater detail.

Next, I read an article discussing a recent publication in the Journal of Medical Ethics.  According to a group of medical ethicists linked to Oxford University, newborn babies are "morally irrelevant," and therefore, parents should have the right to kill them.  They call this act "after-birth abortion."  This particular article is not the original medical journal entry, but a discussion of it.  It contains links to the original article, but when I clicked on the link, it appeared that the article had been removed.

Thankfully, there are groups who are standing up for the rights of the unborn, and seeking to heal the wounds of women affected by abortion.  A few of those groups are Operation Rescue, (caution-links on Operation Rescue's sight contain graphic images of abortion), Operation OutcryTexas Right To LifeThe Hope Women's Resource Clinic, and East Texas Pregnancy Help Center.

Finally, I wanted to ask you to pray, and to seek God in how you can help fight this tragic battle.  The family unit is being torn apart by the world.  We as Christians need to do more than complain; we need to be active.  If we don't stand up for what is right, our society will continue to decay, and even more terrible wrongs will become "rights."

Have a Great Memorial weekend, and while remembering those who gave all to defend our freedom, take time to remember those who never had a chance to live.

God Bless.

Friday, May 17, 2013

Think on These Things: Dannah Gresh's TED Talk

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Philippians 4:8     Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things (NIV).  

I'm sure that many of you know Dannah Gresh.  She is a leading author and speaker about abstinence, modesty, and purity.  We've actually recommend several of her books on our resources page here at A&V.  

On March 16, Dannah was invited by the TED Talk series to give a speech in defense of virginity to an audience of 900 Penn. State students.  We're sharing the video of her nine minute speech with you today:

TED is a globally recognized, by-invitation-only think tank of speeches used by educators and students, billed as "ideas worth spreading."  It is very exciting that the issue of abstinence has reached this platform!

We're sharing this video with you today, not only for the great argument she puts forward regarding tolerance of virginity, but also in the hope that you will spread it as well.  If this video gets enough traffic, then it will be placed on the main TED website, and the message of abstinence will receive global attention!  So, post this to your facebook page, share it on your blog, and help out a great cause.  

Enjoy, and have a blessed weekend!