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Monday, October 25, 2010

Hang in There!

Hebrews 11:1,6      Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see.  (v.6)  And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to Him must believe that He exists and that He rewards those who earnestly seek Him (NIV).

I don't know about you, but I've always been a dreamer.  When I was in junior high and high school, I longed to discover the unique destiny God had for my life.  I would often pray:   "I want to be on the front lines of the spiritual battle, Lord.  I want to be in the thick of the fight, doing Your work, and I don't want to miss anything You have planned for me!" 

Then I would go to school.  I was surrounded by a mass of other kids who wanted nothing more than to "fit in" with the crowd.  Just like many of you, there were times that I was targeted and humiliated for one ridiculous reason or another, and let me tell you, being an outspoken Christian made for an easy target.  During those times, my dreams would seem impossible, and hopelessly far in the future. 

However, even when I didn't feel like it, God burdened my heart to continue praying over these dreams.  Throughout the years, God gave me details about my future work and even spiritual traits of the man I would marry.  Each time He gave me a new glimpse into His plans, my hope was renewed.  I was able to be certain that my future was secure in God.  I couldn't see success with my earthly eyes, but the more I came to know God and the more I surrendered my future to Him, the safer I felt about the dreams God planted in my heart. 

When my husband and I met and fell in love, God showed me, detail by detail, that he was exactly the man I had been praying for all those years!  It was terribly exciting to see such a long awaited dream come to pass!  In the years since, many of my dreams have come true; most of them did not look exactly as I imagined, but they have proven to be exactly God's plan, and exactly what I needed and ultimately wanted. 

Even now, I still have unfulfilled dreams.  At times I tend to lose heart and think they might not come true, but just when I'm at my lowest, God reminds me, through this verse and others, that He is still in complete control and that He makes all things perfect in His time. 

Am I promising you that God will give you whatever you want if you pray hard enough?  No, but I am saying that if you give your heart and life completely to God, and allow Him to make His desires yours, your life will be an amazing spiritual adventure!  Living by faith brings God great delight!  It's the only thing we can do that is pleasing to Him.  So, take your eyes off the here and now and focus on your Heavenly Father.  Understand that He has amazing plans for you, and believe that He rewards those who earnestly seek Him.

Monday, October 18, 2010

My Sisters, This Should Not Be...

James 3:8-10  ...no man can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison.  With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in God's likeness. Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers, this should not be (NIV).

My high school girls' Sunday school class had an excellent discussion yesterday, and it's been on my heart ever since.  We were studying the power of our words.  Proverbs 18:21 says that death and life are in the power of the tongue.  I felt led to share our discoveries with you.

School can be a battle ground, I know.  Everyone is looking to build themselves up and gain approval from their peers.   Some girls do this by tearing down others who appear "weaker" than them.  They pick on anyone who sticks out from the unspoken "acceptable standard".  If you've ever been the victim of this verbal assault, you understand how painful it is.  Other times, without even thinking, we wound someone with our tongue.  It could happen with just a careless comment, or even the tone of our voice.  You will never know how deeply your words can impact another person.  People's outward reaction rarely is equal to the pain they feel within.  Words of disapproval can stick with a person for years, impacting their self-worth, self-esteem, and even affecting the way they view God.

There is a flip side to this; have you ever received an uplifting word from someone you admired?  I'm sure that  compliment breathed life into your soul!  I know that when I receive praise, it makes me feel like I could run a marathon!  I feel strong and ready to conquer the world.  It tends to make me admire that person all the more.  Choose to be such a person; a modern-day, virtuous woman, who has "on her tongue the law of kindness"(Proverbs 31:26).

Can we do this in our own strength?  According to James 3:8, the answer is no.  Thankfully, we are not on our own.  God can help us control our tongue.  He can give us the wisdom to know when to stay silent and when to speak words of healing.  Give God control of your tongue this week.  Allow Him to use this "restless evil" for His good, and watch what unfolds.  God Bless!

Monday, October 11, 2010

How Do You Dress to Impress?

I Peter 3:3-4     Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel—rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God (NKJV).

You don't have to tell me that you take your time getting ready in the morning, I've been there!  As a teenager, I made sure my hair, makeup and clothing looked as perfect as possible before walking out the door.  Why?  Because school was brutal!  The critics were tough!  On several occasions, my day's beginning was directly tied to how well my hair was behaving.

I believe that we honor God by dressing nicely and taking care to be properly groomed, but be careful not to let this area rule your life.  If your self worth is completely tied to your looks and other people's reactions to your looks, you are setting yourself up for disappointment.

Take a step back and think:  whose opinion really matters?  The supposedly "popular" crowd, the guy you wish would notice you, or your Lord and Savior?  God is not nearly as concerned with outward appearances.  What matters to Him is the condition of your heart.  In all your preparations for the coming day, make sure you take time to work on the "hidden person of the heart".  Spend some time in God's presence, allow the mirror of His word to reveal and heal your flaws, and face the world with a beautiful inside as well as a beautiful outside!     

Monday, October 4, 2010

Come with Confidence!

Hebrews 4:14-16  Therefore, since we have a great high priest who has gone through the heavens,  Jesus the Son of God, let us hold firmly to the faith we profess. For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are-yet was without sin. Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need  (NIV).


My grandfather is a businessman, who often holds important meetings.  Throughout my growing up, for one reason or another, there were times I needed to call him at work.  His secretary would answer the phone and I'd ask to speak to him.  If he were busy, she'd say "I'm sorry, he's with a client right now, can I take a message?"  As soon as I'd say my name, she would immediately put me through to my grandfather!  Sometimes I'd try to tell her that I could call back, but she always put me through.  My grandfather, no matter the circumstances, was always glad to hear from me and give me whatever help I needed.  It made me feel so important and loved! 

Have you ever felt like God was distant?  That He was unapproachable?  It's easy to feel this way because we are sinful people.  We tend to imagine God as sitting on His throne in heaven, waiting to pronounce judgement when we fail.  In the strictest sense, this would be a completely just response.  We deserve judgement for our sin; we made the mistake and we have earned the consequences. 

Thankfully, this is only half of the story!  We no longer live in a time where sacrifices must be made for sin.  No longer do we depend on an earthly priest who must enter God's presence and make atonement for our sin.  Instead we have Jesus Christ, the Ultimate High Priest.  He went beyond entering an earthly tabernacle, but entered heaven itself!  He was the sacrifice, His blood was spilled in our place, and not only does His blood cover our sin, but it washes us completely clean and makes us whole!

And the story keeps getting better.  Jesus lived a life just like ours while on this earth.  He is not a God who cannot understand and sympathize with us.  When He lived as a man, he was tempted in every area of life, just like us.  He knows how difficult it can be to stand against the crowd.  He knows that life can be unfair.  He understands that even your closest friends can hurt you, at your lowest moments.  He understands that sin can seem appealing and difficult to overcome.  Yet through all the temptation and trials, He lived a life without sin, just so He could save us!

Here's the best part:  God's wants us to enter His presence with confidence!  We don't have to fear His punishment, or feel like we're wasting His time with our concerns.  He wants to spend time with us, and He wants to meet our needs.  Should we enter His presence thankfully and reverently?  Of course, but we don't need to enter with fear.  Feel free to tell Him about the English project coming up that worries you.  Ask Him for the wisdom to rightly deal with the people at school who are giving you a hard time.  Ask Him to help you overcome the temptation to dress inappropriately, gossip, or hang out with people who will drag you down.  Come to your Heavenly Father as a beloved daughter who has access to His throne at any time.  It's your spiritual birthright!